BreastCancers: What do you say to someone whose mom just found out she has breast cancer

What do you say to someone whose mom just found out she has breast cancer?
My friend told me yesterday his mom found out she has breast cancer and I want to be there for him but I don't want to say the wrong thing how do you be there for someone in this situation without making it worse. Is there anything that was particularly helpful to someone in this same situation?
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1 :
All you can say is "Sorry to hear about your Mom". Simple and sweet. If you like to add "If there's anything you need, let me know." this will not sound pushy, but will let him know that you are there for him.
2 :
Just be there. Be guided by your friend, you know him and know whether he wants to answer questions - like how is she?/what treatment is suggested?/aso. Or whether he would rather not talk about it in which case just be a good friend. Talk about regular things, be easy with him. When someone I knew died in an accident his daughter got great comfort from the support of friends - a text, bar of chocolate, things like that. Her brother didn't want to talk about it at all.
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You're looking at the situation as if there's nothing that can be done for her. Understanding cancer is the key to defeating it. The many labels placed on cancer such as "breast cancer", "prostate cancer", and "lung cancer" only denote where the cancer is located. Yet, the medical community treats them as if they have different causes, such as "smoking causes lung cancer". If this were true, then smoking would also cause breast cancer and prostate cancer and the others. Leukemia is a form of cancer in the blood - how does smoking cause this? Cancer is both caused by dehydration and kills through dehydration and starvation. The three most important substances that sustain life are, in order, oxygen, water and salt. The tissues in the body are composed of 75% water and salt. The brain is 85% water and salt and the blood is 94% water and salt. These must be maintained at their peak levels to keep the body healthy - maintaining low levels of water and/or salt will cause health problems. Doctors advise their patients to "drink plenty of fluids". Unfortunately for their unsuspecting patients, these alternatives that contain sugar, caffeine and other ingredients change the composition of the water that they contain, turning them into a diuretic that pulls out as much as 50% MORE water than what they contain - these are a major contributor to dehydration, and your doctor promotes it! Another piece of faulty advice that doctors give their patients is to cut back on salt because it causes high blood pressure. This, too, is a lie. High blood pressure is caused when the water is removed from the blood to inject into dehydrated cells through a process called reverse osmosis. This process requires pressure - the pressure that shows up in the high blood pressure gauge. Filtering out the water leaves an "excess" of salt, and it's this salt that doctors claim is the cause of the high blood pressure. If that were true, then all you'd need to do to lower the blood pressure would be to cut back on the salt, and the blood pressure should drop naturally - take away the cause the the problem corrects itself. But it doesn't happen this way. Doctors still prescribe medication. This means that either the salt has nothing to do with high blood pressure or the medication was prescribed fraudulently. I wanted to mention these two examples to show how the medical community promotes health problems through the supposed sound medical advice they give. Doctors don't recognize dehydration on the level where health problems originate - this would involve prescribing water, and there's no profit in that. Instead, they recognize dehydration when they can make money from the patient (a $385 saline I.V. in the ER or as the result of a disease). Cancer is both caused by dehydration and kills through dehydration and starvation. If anyone has ever seen the urine output of a late stage cancer patient, they'll note that it is as orange as a sunset - this is the most obvious signs of dehydration. Patients at this stage drink perhaps 3 or 4 ounces of water per day when a healthy person should drink 1/2 their body weight in ounces per day. Cancer can be beaten if the person can be treated for dehydration and kept away from chemotherapy. Chemo is a major contributor to dehydration, as well. Refer to the link below to get you started on how to fight cancer with water. I've added two more links that might be of interest.
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Well it depends on your relationship with girl. I personally would tell her you are there for her is she needs you at all. But also tell her that the vast majority of people who have breast cancer beat it, and live full lives.
5 :
You could cook her something not too spicy. Cold hard boiled eggs are nice or jello. You could ask her if there are any household chores that you could help her with if she is tired from surgery and/or chemo. You could send her a card with flowers or with a grocery gift card (if finances are tight). Just let her know that if she needs anything, she can call you for help.

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Friday, August 12, 2011

What do you say to someone whose mom just found out she has breast cancer